Thursday, April 28, 2011

Things not to say to any woman of child-bearing age

Go to jailphoto © 2009 Shayne Kaye | more info (via: Wylio)Well, now that I'm out of the closet of TTC (Trying To Conceive, for those not in the know), I have a very serious thing I'd like to address: seemingly harmless questions and comments.  There are some things you should not say to a woman (or her also-affected husband):

1) Get on it already. 

2) What's the hold up? I want a grandkid/nephew/godchild.

3) I'm sure you won't have any problems (having a baby).

4) Are you pregnant yet?

I know that many people are simply excited for their friends to reproduce, but at any given moment, you do not know what hardship they are facing in that area. If I had been forced to leave my house for work just after the miscarriage and someone had asked me one of these questions, I probably would've given them the coldest shoulder I could muster in an attempt not to cry.  Luckily, I work from home, so I didn't have to leave my house. 

So, unless you are in the know, do not bring someone else's reproductive status up. I agree to show you grace if this happens in the future. And I hope other women do the same. But, just so you know, these are not things we want to hear.

If you are in the know, you're playing a different game. Pick your moments carefully and lob very soft pitches.

Can you think of any other things that should be on the DO NOT ASK list?

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